This needs to be said.

Let's imagine something. I have a box. When I open the lid, whatever you desire the most is going to come out of it. What do you really desire, above anything else? What do you long for? What will come out of the box when I open it?
I first heard this preached as a sermon at Teen Challenge years ago. For a lot of those people new to the program, they wanted a certain type of drug or alcohol to emerge from the box.
I answered with the name of a man. What man? I don't even know now, but I remember feeling fully ashamed when I heard the rest of what was said that day and in that room.
To this day I am still ashamed by the pedestals we put the opposite sex on. We let the person we desire fill our heads, much of the time with nonsense that isn't even true.
Case in point, mainly with the ladies. Since I don't talk to guys about this kinda stuff and I am not a guy, I don't know that much about it. So I guess I'll just pick on myself and my sex/gender right now.
How many times have you thought a guy "liked" you just to find out later that he never wanted you as more than a friend? It happens all the time. We, as girls, become so fixated on a guy that we take the little things that he says and does and just blow them out of proportion in our minds. Our conversations become all about him, our time is spent on thinking about him and whenever we can, we hang out or talk to him. We get angry when we don't talk to him or when he spends time with other people and not us. We base how good our day is on how long we get to be around him or chat with him.
Straight up, this is not right.
The Bible tells us that we are to fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. Fix our eyes on Jesus. On Jesus. JESUS. Not on man, not on what this earth holds or a man that can distract us from focusing on Jesus. Think about it. If you are totally fixated on someone and looking at them, there is going to be little that could direct your attention away from that person. You're listening to what they're saying, distractions are gone. You are fixed on them. Now imagine that with Jesus. Way neat, right? Spending every waking moment wondering what He's thinking about, knowing that He's thinking about you and that He loves you more than any man ever could? Wow. We don't have to wonder if He likes us or not and fantasize about a romantic evening with Him when we already have His love and we can have a romantic evening with Him at any time (ask me how later).
Ladies, gentlemen, whoever you are reading this, please don't see this as an attack. I do this all too often as well. It takes a lot of time and effort to get out of this cycle and focus on God. I'm learning, slowly but surely. I'm learning that if I trust God with giving me a mate, it will all be better in the long run. To focus Him and find someone earthly to love through Him is the start of the best earthly relationship you could ever have.
My plea: Fix your eyes on Jesus. Give your heart to Him, He deserves your attention, your thoughts, and your time.